Inner vs. Outer Compromise

I was recently listening to an audio contemplation of the 14th Gene Key by Richard Rudd. For those of you reading this who might not know what the Gene Keys are, I would encourage you to visit GeneKeys.com to learn more about Richard and the teachings of the Gene Keys.
The transformational path of the 14th Gene Key moves from compromise to bounteousness; it’s a path of competence. This particular Gene Key is present in my hologenic profile as my evolution – what I’m meant to learn.
Compromise has been a central theme of my life (as it is of most people’s lives), but it’s one I only recently became conscious of. So, discovering that I had Gene Key 14 in my profile was validating to the work I’ve been doing with myself, my therapist and my coach. I’ve been learning how making inner compromises impacts my life, relationships and overall happiness. I’ve also been learning how it impacts my intuition, spirit and trust in myself. This is why compromise is the focus and center of my coaching practice because I guide + support others by living + embodying.

At this point you might be asking yourself, what is an inner compromise? Are there outer compromises?

The answer to the latter is yes. There are two types of compromise – inner and outer. To better understand the differences between the two, it’s sometimes easier to see how they relate to one another.
An example scenario is let’s say your best friend just broke up with their long-term partner and they ask you to come over because they need your support but you’ve already made plans to go on a date. You might be disappointed to cancel the date, but you love your best friend and know that your loyalty lies with them. This is an outer compromise – generally a compromise that disrupts plans. On the other hand, you might decide to go on the date because you don’t want to cancel and come off as a flake or you fear that the person will lose interest in you. What’s important to note here is what’s going on on the inside.
If you decide to go over to your best friend’s because your love for them is greater than the disappointment of canceling the date, then you haven’t made an inner compromise despite making an outer compromise. As Richard so elegantly put it in the contemplation I was listening to: “To live without inner compromise is to live a life of deep honor and virtue.”
INNER COMPROMISES
Involves your love, honor, integrity + values
Based in fear + lack
Betrays personal boundaries
Made with others’ wants, needs, desires in mind
Feels wrong when you make it
OUTER COMPROMISES
Involves plans, expectations, pressure + people-pleasing
Based in trust + worth
Upholds personal boundaries
Made with your highest + greatest good in mind
Feels right when you make it

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